
Guest Episode
February 20, 2025
Episode 174:
The "Giving Up Generation": Addressing Hopelessness Among Youth
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Why are so many young people today struggling with anxiety, depression, and a sense of hopelessness? In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Henry Venter unpacks the crisis facing today’s youth—the “Giving Up Generation.”
We explore the root causes of their struggles, from a lack of purpose and motivation to the deeper impact of nutritional depletion. Dr. Venter shares powerful insights on how responsibility, structure, and a clear pathway to adulthood can restore hope and drive in young adults.
This episode is a must-listen for parents, educators, and anyone invested in helping the next generation thrive. Tune in for actionable solutions that can make a real difference.
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things hello everybody and welcome to True Hope cast the official podcast of true hope Canada where we take a deep
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dive into mental Health's many physiological and psychological aspects this is the show for you if you're
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looking for motivation inspiration knowledge and solutions and that's what we are all about here at true hope Canada and true hope Canada is a mind
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and body based supplement company dedicated first and foremost to promoting brain and body Health through
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non-invasive nutritional means for more information about us please visit true hopec canada.com today I welcome Dr
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Henry ventor to the podcast now Dr ventor is a licensed clinical psychologist and professor of psychology
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with 2 5 years of clinical and teaching experience he is currently the program director for the ma human behavioral
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psychology program and professor of psychology at National University Dr ventor's research focuses on the rising
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mental health issues among young adults including the increased rates of loneliness and the role of meaning and
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purpose in achieving happiness and fulfillment in life his therapeutic approach combines client centered
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therapy CBT and psychodynamic principles creating a cohesive and effective method
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for addressing mental health concerns today on the show we discuss the giving up generation addressing hopelessness
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among youth enjoy the show okay hi Henry welcome to True Hope
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cast thank you so much for being with us today how are you what is going well what is going well it is turning
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into fake spring over here it seems like winter is over it's like spring is here
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but the people in the no around here says it's fake spring watch it it's going to get cold again and since I'm
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new relatively new in the area I'm not sure I'll watch out but I enjoy this week of springing them amazing yeah I
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hear the word fake spring as well and I'm not used to that terminology I'm just used to Spring but this fake spring
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is something that uh yeah it looks like something we're both going to have to get used to but that's that's great
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today we're going to be discussing the giving up generation addressing
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hopelessness among youth but before we jump into that topic would you mind just letting us a little let letting us know
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a little bit more about who you are and what it is that you do please right I'm a licensed clinical psychologist in
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state of California I've been that since 1996 originally from South Africa
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immigrated to United States in 1998 um and um three years ago I also
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moved out of California in to the Smoky Mountains of North Carolina then uh my
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actual full-time job I am a professor at National University I've been there for
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20 years uh I first was in charge of the online uh marriage and family the
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Therapy Program I actually took the program online the last two years I am
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director of a master's degree program called the Masters in human behavioral
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psychology um 13 month program online program we run at
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National amazing and what what has brought you to the journey to this point
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where you are going around having conversations about this giving up
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generation What's led you to that point since we work with young people
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that enroll in the University we are probably were some of the first to pick
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up you know what is happening with enrollments and talk with advis advisers what do you hear from people who want to
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enroll we started to pick up there that people start questioning should I even
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go to university should I do undergrad should I do uh master's degree is it even worth it so we started picking up
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that there is uh because they would ask us uh what can we give more information
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and so it started there and then um gradually we also looked at uh what else
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is happening I then picked up um I was actually uh uh in Canada for a
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conference uh on on this topic where I presented where I was there the Friday
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the Monday the attorney uh uh the medical report here in uh in in
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America came out um the white people on
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loneliness among young people and so that started a bigger research um for me
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to see this just in America and as I did wider research I found out now this is not just in the United States this is
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all over the world that there is a tremendous rise in loneliness and it's
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actually been tracked a lot of people said but it's it was started with Co and I thought well let me see and I was
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amazed to find that research has shown that this has actually started a couple of years before Co the trend started and
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we just didn't pick it up uh Co accentuated it but it's interesting that
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young people first started feeling lonely uh isolated and then that morphed
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into this whole idea of giving up on life and not having a clear purpose and
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goal of uh for their life interesting and just to continue
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the kind of the introduction of this topic can you maybe explain a little bit what you mean by the giving up
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generation and what some what are some of the key factors contributing to this sense of hopelessness of among youth
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today yeah so what we hear from young people is that it uh you know the
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American dream was always about which came the capitalist dream and the dream all over the world that you'll you
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you'll uh leave school you'll work hard you go to college uh you'll earn enough money uh to buy a house and build a
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retirement and there will always be I'm earning enough to one day have a future and it it more became clear with perhaps
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due to economic problems the world over that young people realized I ended up with so much study that the jobs that I
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get and I get paid is not going to be be enough to buy a house I'll never earn
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enough to even retire so I'm not even going to try uh and work hard we can just as well stop trying another uh idea
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was always well you can always pick yourself up and you can you know you can make yourself again you can restart uh
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and a lot of young people started saying that's impossible too hard taxes are too high so there's a lot of factors playing
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into this I don't think it's something that young people just started doing because they they lack the courage it is
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a lot to do with what happen socially and in in the structure around them that
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that they looked at and they started making sums about will I be able to make
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uh a living for instance young people started questioning for the first time
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in our whole cultural history should we have children isn't it too expensive to
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have children now when I you know I'm married a long time now my 40 years plus
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and we had children at 20 at that stage we didn't even question how much children would going to cost we just had
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our children yeah young people now started working out says it it's unfair we will never be able to afford this kid
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to provide a living because it has become too expensive and um and that has
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become uh a growing Trend that young people just started losing hope that
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there is even something you know something at the end of the rainbow they say well there isn't even a rainbow
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there's nothing so become very dark and depressed remember at the same time we also tracked and looked at well what
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what is the mental health numbers now remember there has been in the last 50 years tremendous rise in the treatment
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of mental health medications treatment I mean as you know there's about 20,000 mental health apps available now
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you can access therapy so we would think with all our advances that our mental
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health numbers especially among young people would have been declined well
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Simon you'd be amazed it didn't decline it is rising at an incredible rate so
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with the rising loness is also the rise in mental health issues that with in
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spite of the more treatment is seemingly uh not working uh the
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medication they're using is seemingly not working or not doing what it should
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but the numbers is rising and we have more young people now accessing therapy than ever before so there is definitely
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a correlation there uh in in what's happening with young people in the loneliness as well as the mental health
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issues that's really interesting and I just have to just regards to let's say
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17 18 19 20 21 year olds that region of individual I know quite a few of those
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people in that age group and they can't they can barely think past the weekend
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let alone marriage kids retirement so
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correct when you're talking about um the hopelessness of these young people
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connected to the fact that it's going to be almost impossible for some people to afford a home to retire at a a good Age
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and and live those final years enjoying yourself I can't imagine that that age
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group is really thinking about those long-term things in the future I'm 40 now and I've been thinking about them
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for the 10 years but when I was 20 there's no chance I'm thinking about um
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mortgages and I'm thinking about marriage and I'm thinking about kids so I'm just wondering what's your opinion
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in regards to the factors that could probably enter the life of these children from let's say maybe 11 onwards
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for a 10year period um where they are becoming more um let's say independent
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from their their parents and doing things outside of the home a lot more there has to be a conversation around
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smartphones and social media and how that is a completely unnatural phenomenon that we don't
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know really the long-term ramifications of you know giving a 12-y old a smartphone access to the internet access
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to all these social media platforms that um we know are directly linked to
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depression anxiety and all of these things you know it's a very very unnatural um platform to be for the
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brain to be engaged in so I just I just wonder um about those
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long-term ideas opposed to kind of what's happening to kids in let's say 10
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years between 10 and 20 what's happening to them to lead themselves into a
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position where they do feel like there's not necessarily no future for
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them but I just feel like they don't have the motivation they don't have these they don't have the responsibilities like that I know a lot
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of people you know when I was when I was 15 I had like a paper route and I had a job when I was 15 you know and I had I
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had to contribute to the family and I might not have enjoyed that every single day but I certainly enjoyed you know
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that transition into adulthood and I just wonder now um do you think there
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are some things lacking with these 20 year olds that there we were fulfilling
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that lack 20 30 years ago absolutely the uh we are now
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discovering that a lot of young people around 20 that Ares at 20 around uh
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struggle with a poor emotional strength and the a big thing has become
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emotional intelligence U and not just the here there's a lot of them are very smart but
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they do lack the uh the tenacity to deal with the uh pressures of everyday life
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because it's a pressure once you leave school um you know you you got to make a
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living that you got to go to school if you go to school you got to pass we can't give you a degree for nothing you
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gotta pass and it's and it's it's not easy or if you say I'm not going to go to college I want to go work well you
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got to show up every day and you before somebody's got to pay you it's it is simply not easy and it's as if a lot of
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young people were not aware of that true the economic realities of there it is a
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bit they hear about these things but on the other hand it seems like previous
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generations were just mentally tougher and we are thinking about what what was
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the difference you bring up the difference a big difference is that you know children at 11 10 11 out get a cell
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phone but it's not just the cell phone the problem with the cell phone is to make you stationary you don't run around
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with your cell phone while you're playing a game you sit like I'm sitting here you know even my job has changed I
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sit my whole job from beginning there to end I sit here if I don't go do something physically I'm going to sit
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here so young people has become stady they go in their room where they sit with the computer or then they came into
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the cell phones and I think the lack of of being Physically Active has become a
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problem uh less young people are a are involved in sports I don't know about
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you but when I was in school and I got home I got on my bike and it was out for the whole day yeah if we didn't play
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sports who out got the home at dark uh you you just you know you you uh had to
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compete everybody compete with sports uh which ultimately makes you teaches you
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to be stronger there's rules you got to follow it I remember my Ruby Coach man he was like it was like boot camp to go
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there and you talk to your dad about it it's like yeah well you got to make you stronger you don't get any help there uh
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you get and I think these things do play a role the type of Lifestyles the
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culture that we created for young people all over the world because it's pretty similar nowadays that has led to the
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fact that um a lot of young people finish high school and then enter the
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young adult world and they are just not mentally tough for this for this world
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and they hope that the world now remember if you're not mentally tough what we saying is you have an external
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locus of control you know the term locus of control internal locus of control basically says I can handle stress uh
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and issues and even if it's tough on the outside things are not 100% I can still
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maintain my North I can still you know have hope yeah but the external locus of
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control means it's a weaker uh uh emotional strength and therefore I need
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the world around me to solve it for me it needs to be a perfect world
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everything needs to be in line for me to be happy and of course that doesn't
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happen that's never going to happen it you know the world has never been like that the world is always up and down you
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know jump moving into young adult it's like jumping off a boat in the middle of the ocean and then discovering that the
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ocean is a ferocious place and you got to swim for life that is uh and it's like a lot of them is like no somebody
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has got to rescue me and that's not going to happen and it's very it's it's it's I think it's in a sense it is is um
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it is a shock for a lot of young people and they're looking for answers and part of the part of the reaction is I think
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we should just give up we should not even try we should work four days I mean uh the the uh you've heard the other day
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I read that the uh the interns in Washington the association representing
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them uh approach Congress to ask for four day week uh they want to less
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and people are like we actually need you to work six days a week not four days a week and it's it but that's a sign of we
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need we we can deal with the pressures so we need the world outside to change and the shock is the world outside's not
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going to change yeah I I remember I remember being 19 and 20 and it being a being a
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lot more unfamiliarity a lot of un more unknowns were stepping up but but I felt like my parents and my brothers had done
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a half decent job in preparing me for those challenges and it's if you were going to go into do a marathon or if you
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were going to do anything that required you to challenge yourself physically mentally whatever that might be you
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would have some preparation whether you you know you read you read books in
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preparation or you trained your body physically in preparation or you had a job when you were 15 or 14 working in
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your dad's shoe factory or doing a paper round these are all they're all they're all lessons right it's all training for
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the day where you do leave the house and you have to start fending for yourself and it's
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uh it's a very I think you can get a lot of positives from stepping into the unknown and and the unfamiliar but if
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you're unprepared if you're untrained it will seem impossible and you will
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certainly very easily slip into a state of hopelessness because all you see in front of you is failure and then you
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wrap in let's say um social social media
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Incorporated anxiety and depressions that's right incredibly difficult for an
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individual to Galvanize the resources within themselves to get the energy and
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the motivation to do highly challenging things be that emotionally or physically so there
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has to be an element where we're talking about what's the parental responsibility in getting your kids ready for you know
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1920 school or the or school or the workforce and what's the school's
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responsibility in doing that as well you know like the school system must have a huge amount of responsibility because
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they have kids from you know six years old to um 16 or 18 in whatever country
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you might be and they have you know six to eight hours a day with with kids are
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we are we not preparing them properly are we not integrating education into
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the experience of um going to University or within the workforce what what have
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you seen that well this is one of the things we look at ask a lot of young people that's in school now you know in
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your last three years in school was there ever a course you could take that prepared you for life after school
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talked about young adulthood uh maybe this's a psychology class that a couple of people take but that's a handful of
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people but generally uh school curriculums do just not include these life skills for young
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people a lot more can be done to prepare young people for uh this transition
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that's going to take place that um what does it mean to transition from
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adolescence to Young adulthood and what does young adulthood mean it means you're on the way to become an adult the
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um the the so a lot of Education a lot of programs can um I'm not saying
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they're they're not there's not any of them but as as a rule there is it's
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there is not enough of that to help prepare young people for what is lying ahead um to do proper career planning
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because a lot of young people would just kind of push into well you should go to college and they never had a chance
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probably to get more career plan to say well you can make a living even you you don't need to go to college there's
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other careers that you can also take but think about it a lot of people just land up in college and we created this thing
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of an Undeclared major which actually just says somebody shows up in at University with no idea
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what they should do which is a bad idea you know they just show up and then hope they going to figure out um that it's
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going to work somebody like that could have done something else that would be more meaningful m one of the other
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things that a parents can do uh if if somebody says what should I do now I some I have a kid between 10 and and 15
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for instance is uh put your kid in some organized Sports they yeah go do
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Wrestling Boxing find a club take one do the things we were hoping that Sports
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could could be that place but like in America my daughter uh played Varsity
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tennis but you know only 20 of the top kids out of a school of 3,000 eventually
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could play tennis she was luckily one of them it became a a professional sport
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pretty soon and we were new to this pretty soon they asked us who's her coach well Mama's her coach she said you
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your kid's not going to make it you need to get a coach uh here's a list of coaches so we found out that you know in
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order to make it uh she had to play in tournaments up and down the valley we got her a Coach uh that started working
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with her it became semi-professional now her case he busted her knee and the doctor said this is just out she can't
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do that anymore more but that gave us a glimpse on you know just a handful the
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rest of the kids there is no sports for them to participate in schools can do so
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much more to create an environment what there's PE which children generally hate
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because they get evaluated remember my one daughter had to run around the track in a certain amount of time and she's
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not an athlete at all and then she started having an asthma attack and if she doesn't make it she's gonna fail PE
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and then you can't even yeah so they actually got children to hate physical activity but so much more can be done
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but let's say schools don't do it parents should do whatever they can because you talk about other things like
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uh paper R well there are no papers anymore so I had to number one number two there are there are uh cities areas
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where you wouldn't send your kid on their own out to the end of the street it's so dangerous so that's right we
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have those realities but if possible and I know there's economic limitations from
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a lot of parents but as far as possible uh get your kid to be do something
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physical under a coach because they learn to push themselves they learn um
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to to follow rules I remember years ago my wife is also a clinical therapist and she worked with children years ago she
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worked with probably one of the most difficult children you would run into our practice we had a practice together
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he would run in he would do a summer so and then stand on his head on the on on
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the couch uh it was it was just uncontrollable parents these parents
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were like out they couldn't handle this and um one of the things she told him
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this kid needs to get into organized Sports I don't get what you do this get you get him they eventually got him into
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swimming and so we could follow nowadays you friends with people on Facebook you could follow them and uh we could follow
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through people we know people know look here is his picture he became a swimmer in school now the swimmers in school in
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high school my other daughter also swam and they would be at school six o'clock
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in the morning that's when they started to practice you know uh and you should hear those coaches I mean they are they
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are terrible like is this for the olypics you guys are training them but
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it it created a lot of a lot of strength in the kids this kid eventually became a top swimmer in the school team they
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broke the school record for a relay um and he is now on to University and part
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of his healing and Recovery was this organized sports that she got him into
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and the CH the parents in and explained to them this is what he needs not just home he needs a place where somebody
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else can tell him this these are the rules this is what we push you for to push himself Beyond just remember school
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on the other hand uh when created a system especially here in America where
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you you can pass 12th grade without doing a lot of work they just you take lesser and lesser class in actual fact
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it's not a 12th grade it's a sort of is a sort of ninth grade that you end up with call it 12th grade but they you
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took all the lesson classes because the kids who want to go to school will take will push thems a little bit more uh
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take a higher level class or AP CL advanced placement classes so a large
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group of kids in 12th grade and think they prepared but actually they they they never push themselves at all the
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schools just made it easier to get them through so in the process I think it all
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contributed that we now we have this um uh period where life has become harder
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it's become very difficult it's not easy to make it and to uh to leave school
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find a good job will pay you and do all the things that that you dream to do it
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is not easy but on the other hand our children are less prepared so the Gap has become very wide a lot of a lot of
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young people that is emotional strong enough and the demand is very high and
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and this is why you see a lot of these these hope and anger and they look at politics well politics should be fixed
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for us and then that doesn't work out and then they're angry and it just leads to more polarization and then the rise in um in
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mental health issues so parents can do a lot they they need to look at what's
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happening with the kid and realize this just sitting and and and working with a
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device is is not healthy they need to create a system when they say what can
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we do to get our kid to be to take more responsibility because responsibility is
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what builds uh emotional strength I take responsibility even if you uh I remember
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when when I was high school I would U do Gardens because a lot of people uh
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ladies didn't have husbands the past away widows and so I found a niche there that I could go mow their LA because
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they didn't have anybody and I know nowadays you have you know guarden care everywhere but in those days you young
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people yeah anything to help their kid to to do more than just uh sit is very
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important yeah you've um you kind of bridged a few interesting gaps there with the education system and the
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parental system um community and then kind of you've got kind of got the overarching guys of of the government
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that can certainly help support with initiatives and funding to you know create things such as um organized
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Sports and and teams and things like that and I just just before we I'd love to transition into Community because I
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think that's a Hu hugely important aspect I think that I've just mentioned this on the show a few times in regards
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to Conventional school systems and how you know being in school for maybe you
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know 15 years um a lot of schools end up kind of
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killing a lot of creativity and individuality within children I think in my opinion and I think that um Can
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demoralize some children and take away a lot of like raw excitement they they
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might have for certain things um you know you've got for example maybe a a
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boy who just all he wants to do is play play sports basically that was me at school all I wanted to do was get outside at break time and play football
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with my friends and then I was so excited for PE class I was so excited for games class but that was only you
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know 3 four hours of my week and the rest of it while I'm sat in the classroom I could never get super motivated because my I needed to move my
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body much much more in order to um really feel like I was thriving and
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feeling really motivated and that's just me as an example but I just think that it could be quite challenging for kids
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when they get to like 15 16 17 years of age when they're thinking about what they're going to do in two three years
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um within school when they're very much kind of put put into
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this structure of their educational system rather than being able to really um
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nourish what's really creative for them individually whether that is sports or
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whether that is art or drama or design or it could be mathematics or re or
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English literature for example it could certainly be those things but I feel like we don't pinpoint
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the really exciting factors that kids really really love and enjoy because at
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the end of the day I think that most people when they find a job that fuels
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their soul spiritually it's something that they've always loved and enjoyed
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probably from a very very young age and it can be very challenging I'm not
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blaming the school system they have very limited resources limited time Etc they can't facilitate everyone's individual
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desires and needs but I would think that there must be some mechanisms in regards
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to incorporating education the home and the community to be able to help
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individuals find what it is that they they love and they're motivated about and then do their very best to you know
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certainly turn that certainly turn that into a job and into work because it's happened with me it's happened with so
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many people I know who have gone through the workforce for maybe 5 10 years and then they've gone back to something they
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actually love and you can you know you can turn so many amazing things into into into work into money these days and
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it comes from a place of passion and that's right it's very very passion I think it's a really important word in
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regards to what's going to motivate and drive you and I think when kids get to 19 these days they've got no idea what
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they're passionate about like I think a lot of them think they're going to be YouTubers or famous Instagram absolutely
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interesting love just interject there yeah uh they've done a worldwide study on on countries what kind of jobs young
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people want to do and in more than half of the countries they want to become influencers work but if you then ask a
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lot of the young people well okay you want to do this a job what do you want to do it about no I don't know because
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they don't know what their passion is so they see uh you know well there's something to do but they they miss the
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whole point yeah the whole YouTube influencer uh uh phenomena is successful
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for people who has a passion and talk about something that's authentically
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them that's right you that's why you see people can start Chanel and it goes nowhere because it's not authentically
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the person there's no passion yeah there's there's no story behind it so
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even there it leads to a lot of of um despondency and failure because they try
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these things and then it fail and they and they can understand why it fails it's like well you need something that
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you're passionate about it's not just something which you do and it works it's an idea but there's a a component
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missing in for some of it that's right um you've discussed the importance of
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community and support systems in addressing youth hopelessness and can you share some effective strategies for
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building these systems perhaps both at an individual level and as a societal
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level as well yeah the the the um in fact this is so serious uh Simon the I
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refer to the American Surgeon General Dr moru he said that we actually have an
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epidemic of loneliness and isolation and he connected it with the fact that where
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does it come from and that really I picked that up and he said one of the biggest problems is the lack of
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community he said they found in a study that and he yes that a tremendous study that uh young people now between 15 and
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24 uh has 70% less social act interaction
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with people and friends than 20 years ago so the the the the uh what we should
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focus on is not so much the isolation problem but the fact that it comes from
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a lack of social interaction there's no true social act interaction and you're right the social media has played a role
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because a lot of young people think they have like you and me you're on Facebook and you have friends on Facebook or
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followers you don't even know the people this this yeah I got 170 people on on
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Facebook after I called that to say do I know these people and there's still a lot that I don't even know so are they
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really my friends so you can be duped in thinking that following people online
34:44
and interacting that you have interaction that's not interaction you are just a spectator and the this has
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become one of our modern problems that social media has turned a lot of people
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into spectators they they just read they consume but they don't actually interact
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or make any new connections but it takes up an inordinate amount of time and uh
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in in in eventually because people in misery seek company as they become more
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isolated more depressed they are more prone to read negative uh news and they
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follow negative news uh and but they still remain spectators so and this has
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become one of our biggest problems is that the lack of social interaction so
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one of the issues that came up is well in that young adulthood period we need to make you know build relationships so
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what will we do well let's build an app and so dating apps has become tremendous
35:47
now working with clients I get a lot of firsthand information how these dating have works and it is a mindfield do not
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think you're going to make this connections over I mean one of the guys you know he divorced about two three
36:00
years ago eventually they got him to go on dating app and uh and all he got was
36:06
people who would said hey you know I was on my way to meet you and my car break down can you just send me
36:11
$70 and and they they so that led him to be so respondent say Henry how am I
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gonna meet anybody uh he wants to make social interaction because the world has
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become very difficult uh in uh the culture is is not there built around
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social interaction if you take for instance one of the uh big areas of
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social act interaction used to be Church well uh as you know worldwide going to
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church has just plummeted now don't look at it from a religious Viewpoint look at it as a
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human connection view people would go there and meet each other so now less and less people go there so where do
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they go so there's less and less places where young people can interact uh uh
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with other people and that becomes the focal point so parents should make sure
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that that when they deal with the kids uh especially between 15 24 is to
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evaluate what is their social interaction do they have friends do they have interaction with their friends uh
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do they do things together with their friends uh if not it's a clear
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indication that that young person is is not on on a healthy path and so it's
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very important and then to help them you say well you can we help you to do something with your friends and plan
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something with your friends uh but that is one of the most important things and I don't think it's just for 15 to 24
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from clients I work with I find out even older people has the same problem where
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do we actually socially interact with other people are we com a society that
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just becomes isolated living uh in an the internet and just remain uh
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Spectators or how do we break this this Halt and change what we have well the
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first thing is we need to understand what the problem is and get insight which is why we have this thought is to
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develop Insight that let's try to begin to understand what's happening
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here I'd love to just touch on the spirituality aspect uh if you don't mind because I I think it's I think it's
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hugely important I think that what you said in regards to don't think about it as um you don't have to necessarily
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think about it as church or religion or God whatever it is but it's a massively important communal space that for
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hundreds of years people have have have joined to to come together to talk and
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just imagine when we were living a much smaller communities and you know every Sunday that would be a place where
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people would come together to be with other human beings and that's obviously a hugely important part of being a human
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being is looking other people in the eye and sharing stories and sharing sad stories and sharing laughs you know it's
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all massively massively important and I've seen I've certainly seen the that
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that dip that you're talking about in the attendance for church but I think in recent years in the past couple of years
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um I know locally in our church here that more and more younger families are
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coming in and joining and I and I don't think it's necessarily a don't think it's exclusively about
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spirituality and having a connection with a higher power I think it's about coming together with the community and
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having um having this group of people you know is going to be there like this every every every Sunday at nine o'clock
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you know there's going to be dozens and sometimes hundreds of people there um
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coming there for for for for a very positive reason and a lot of I've seen a lot of younger families coming into
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church and I think that that um requirement for spirituality and
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connection is people are recognizing that that's a part of their part of their life that they need to have and
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joining a church and going to a church on a regular basis is a very simple and easy way to do that and traditionally
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we've seen it do incredible things and yeah I think that this what what do you think about um this connection with the
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youth loneliness and a lack of spirituality within themselves as individuals and within the family
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because we mentioned the word passion and you know passion is a very interesting word you know where it where
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does where does that passion come from is it come from inside does it come from outside of us does it come from a higher power and if we don't have that we are
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not complete I guess yes I think that the the issue of not going to church
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less people go to church the loss of faith is playing a big role in uh people
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not finding their passion because uh the if you say I don't need that then
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all right and who are you how do you define yourself where do you come from uh in order to know where I'm going I
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need to have an idea where I come from if I don't even know where I come from and then how do I know where do I want
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to go Faith uh religion has always played a tremendous role and there are
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some very healthy uh aspects around Fai helping people to find out who they
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are uh because remember that's part that we talked about the 15 to 24 your whole goal
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your and task D is to determine who you are you are you need to build identity
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to what we call identity for closure to a this identity and then in the 24s up
41:48
you need to use that identity to connect to other people so large part has to do with finding out who you are I think
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faith can play a tremendous role apart from the the fact that it creates a great Community faith can play a
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tremendous role in helping me determine who I am and also coming to groups with
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who I am because remember uh finding out who I am between 15 24 is also coming to
42:11
grips with what who I am who I am not what do I have what do I have not I
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realize I'm not a genius there's other people's Geniuses I realize I'm not the
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next best new sports star so I come to groups limitations but I also have to
42:29
discover my potential that I have otherwise I enter that period of young adult with very depressed uh very
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unaware of the fact that I do have qualities Faith spirituality religion
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had played a big role in helping people find out that they do have worth and they do have quality and I think without
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that will miss out on something that they now need to discover and there no way to discover that and so the the
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other thing A Part faith is community can be Grant there's a of of
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nonprofit who does great work encourage young people all right we don't have Paper Trails anymore you can go sell
43:12
newspapers and all of that but there're if you can't play sport in in at a young age in um in a
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valuable nonprofit organization because that creates community and nonprofits always look I had a client a while ago
43:27
was working in school and she was working at the animal shelf and and she
43:33
was spending a whole week at the animal shelter stud people she started loving
43:38
it she it seems like she's going to make it a career and I was just it was just excellent idea of uh of finding a place
43:48
where where I can find meaning and purpose uh and they needed volunteers and she started volunteers like cleaning
43:53
kennels and then she started this and that and I young people to to do that
43:59
you don't need to be alone don't sit and and I'm not knocking the internet the internet is important and a lot of the
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technology is fantastic it's a great development so the but what we need to protect against uh are the elements of
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technology and social media in particular that seek to maximize the
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amount of time that young people are spending online at the expense
44:23
of of social interactions they balance it things but how do I balance get
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involved get involv nonprofits get involved in in church you know whatever your religion is uh because that's going
44:35
to lead to more connection but we need to start maximizing social connection
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that people can feel they belong because where I feel I belong I want to spend
44:46
more time there uh I just I'm drawn to spend more time there uh and ultimately
44:52
it makes me feel better about myself in life if I feel I belong to to a group to
44:59
someone we all in a sense uh have a hurt mentality we cannot survive on our own
45:06
and in isolation beautifully said and I think there's so much to be said for
45:12
um faith in something coming towards you whether you have the the idea of a
45:20
perfect job or an actual object I think that being able to have faith in
45:25
something in higher power I'm not necessarily think people have to believe that there's a a a dude in the sky with
45:32
a big white beard but to have that faith in something outside of us uh and
45:38
leaving it up to that power to to bring it towards us in a in a kind of way that we can't predict I think I've seen that
45:44
I've seen that work for myself personally I've seen it work for a lot of other people um absolutely and it's
45:49
there's a lot lot of power with that and there's actually some incredible um books out there some incredible individuals probably some incredible
45:56
podcasts about how can actually get in towards that power and and use that for yourself and I think
46:02
that could be a very useful tool for a lot of people kind of struggling with that um abely in that time and I'd love
46:08
to talk to you about something that I'm experiencing within my family and I've got I've got a three-year-old and a
46:13
5-year-old and I'm thinking about when they're 15 years of age and I I I love
46:19
the historical um stories of rights of Passage from um childhood to adulthood
46:26
and how how traditionally you know um the these these boys would be trained to to hunt to fish to to to make fire and
46:34
then they would have this transition into adulthood by going out into the forest and taking care of themselves for
46:39
days or weeks at a time and coming back and having ceremony around the fact that they've survived with the with the
46:46
challenge with the tools that they've been given and the teachings and they come back and they're they are now a man
46:52
and they actually have a role and responsibility with that in the community that comes with that with the comes with overseeing those challenges
46:59
and it's a very difficult thing to um incorporate in 2025 and I I think about
47:05
how I can do it and um what I'm going to do with my kids and I'm very fortunate you know I'm I live in Canada I'm from
47:11
the UK I lived in Sweden for a long time and that's where my elder brother lives and he has a child as well who's four
47:17
years old and my brother in the UK's got a four year old as well so my plan is to when they're 14 15 years of age is to
47:24
kind of send them off to these these these foreign places and live without
47:30
the family and live without their comfortability and the the their usual surroundings and be embraced in a new
47:37
environment and I remember when I was like about 10 years of age and my
47:42
brother would ex do an exchange program with a French student where a French go
47:48
a french guy would come and live with us for a couple of months and my brother would go and live with his family and they would just do this exchange and I
47:54
think that's an incredibly positive way to um to to step out of the comfort zone
48:02
and also as a parent let go somewhat in regards to the the control that we want
48:08
to have over our kids to keep them safe but yeah we have to know that you know there's going to be a Time coming soon
48:14
when they're 18 19 years of age where your job as a parent to teach them what you can teach them to go out into the
48:20
real world it is done and I just want wonder what you your
48:26
thoughts about that were like at that age the rights of Passage and how vital travel is for kids not necessarily to go
48:33
when they're 19 to go and travel to Thailand and party for a month or whatever but to actually go to a new
48:41
place and live there and work there and you know be incorporated into the into
48:46
into a completely new society and community and what that can do for you as a human absolutely there's two things
48:54
that you talking about here that can help a child develop uh increased
48:59
emotional strength that prepares them for when they leave uh adolescence and
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that's new experiences with increasing responsibility so your job as a parent
49:12
is to create these new experiences um because a lot of what we have currently especially build around
49:19
you know the internet is very boring it's actually very the same a lot of people say well there's so much to stream I'm actually bored because it's
49:25
the same over and over yeah uh and you can just sit behind your computer and so
49:30
that's why they create new things to draw attention our job experence uh should focus on how can I create new
49:37
experiences um you know start at a younger age where you send them off for and this where camps has always been
49:45
part of the American culture for instance and I think in other areas as well but it's become very expensive for
49:51
people it's only been drawn down to a couple of days where it used to be much longer but that was the idea is that the
49:58
kid goes out from new experiences over summer at a camp where they are now part of a bigger group with responsibility
50:05
and that's the that's the idea to build up more and more of that to the point where you can send them you know for a
50:12
couple weeks couple of months to a whole other area because it's new experiences that stimulate the mind to develop
50:18
because with new experiences come responsibility and and so the more you
50:24
you pick up responsibility the more you grow emotional strength so you must help
50:29
to to at a very young age uh increase the size of their world not just send to
50:36
school a lot of parents are very focused sending kid to school and they have to learn there and they miss the whole other area is they now part of them
50:43
don't take them hiking they don't like it but that's part of the prepare them you they need to pray your back we're
50:49
going to go we're going to teach because in you want to take them to places where they're uncomfortable but to that to do
50:55
that you must make yourself un comfortable take them camping because in the camping everybody gets
51:00
responsibility we start making food on a on a fire um in fact a lot of kids start
51:06
loving that uh but you create new experiences um when and there there's
51:12
wonderful things like in end of April my wife and I go on another four day like the L coast and there's a whole group
51:18
and there's young people that sometimes come with their parents and and so we carry our packs and you know heavy gear
51:25
45 pound you sit your tent up you make food you know you you but you got this
51:31
most fantastic new experience we actually did a n day across uh the
51:36
sieras in California once and the uh so and that's where you really learn new
51:43
things so a lot of parents can start taking their kids on on some of these camps or hikes or just figure out what
51:51
is new experien don't just go and not not not Disneyland but don't just go to Disneyland where you just send them off
51:57
oh go take a ride get that ride over and over there's no new experience later on they've done it over and over it it
52:04
doesn't it's a fun day but it doesn't add to development so parents should ask
52:10
what can I do with my kids that will help them to experience new things and
52:15
increase their responsibility and the scope of their ability to function in this world what can I do not just school
52:23
that's a given got to send them to school that that's part of it but we look at the school to do these things
52:28
for us and the schools are saying no our job is just to teach them these things cognitively and we can't do the rest we
52:34
don't have the time we don't have the money we have limited resources parents should look and I know parents are busy
52:40
uh sometimes they work very hard two jobs I do understand that yeah but that is something to think about and
52:47
sometimes you can pair up with other parents to say yeah can my kid go with your kids to do this so you're on the
52:52
right track here with something very valuable yeah I think the um it can be
52:58
very challenging to create awe and wonder in anyone these days but going
53:05
camping and seeing mountains and seeing oceans and seeing Blue Lakes and seeing you know 500 year old trees and then
53:13
once you get rid of the light pollution of cities you look up at the stars and you see the cosmos like that is just
53:18
some of the most or inspiring things you can ever do and it will viscerally
53:23
change individuals and I don't care how much they Instagram they look up at the stars they will be they will be they'll
53:30
be changed and it's an incredibly cheap way to connect human beings to something
53:37
that's bigger than us and abs all about you know for for parents to listen and I I could throw it in here I use a group
53:44
in California TSX Challenge and this guy takes young people uh as a group out if
53:51
you can do it yourself you can send your kids with them H it's just you know it's
53:56
safe it's they do it all the time that's one way of of getting your kid out of
54:02
this this this monotonous world that they often is send them with one of these groups to do something um or
54:09
travel as you say uh to another country if if you can wonderful because new
54:14
experiences just expand the mind yeah and it forces you to adapt and that's
54:20
that's the kind of emotional growth that's necessary beautifully said and I'd love
54:26
to finish up talking a little bit about nutrition and mental health and and kids
54:32
and the Our Youth and in preparation for this podcast and a few others this this
54:37
week I've been reviewing some of the research papers done on nutritional deficiencies and mental health and our
54:44
our Flagship product here at trueu Hope Canada has 35 independent peerreview medical journals to its name and I was
54:50
looking at one a couple of days ago in regards to using broadspectrum micronutrients in treating children with
54:57
um clinically diagnosed psychological disorders and it's a very rare phenomenon because you know obviously within the scientific World they want to
55:03
look at one ingredient that that's G to take care of anxiety or depression Etc because you can't you can't patent
55:11
natural organic material and you certainly can't do it when um we're talking about 30 36 ingredients in our
55:18
product you know it's that's not how pharmaceutical companies make money so they're not going to put up the the
55:23
money to research these things but I I was just reading through this 2010 study um that was comparing micronutrients to
55:30
medications for managing autism and I know we've not talked about autism in this show but we're talking about like a
55:35
spectrum of psychological disorders and you can certainly put anxiety and depression loneliness and all of those
55:42
things within that and this study in particular which I'll actually put in the show notes for reference because
55:48
it's quite it's quite remarkable um and this study found that using micronutrients specifically M Power Plus
55:54
in this case reduced um social withdrawal it reduced anger it reduced irritability and it reduced um sib which
56:01
is like self-injurers behaviors and I see all of those things
56:07
maybe not the sib but like I see all of those things I see anger I see social withdrawal I see
56:12
irritability I a rage I see all of these things with teens these days so we're not talking about necessarily autism but
56:19
we're talking about a lot of things that teens experience and when are there's
56:24
there's a bunch of schools high schools in the area where I live and my son and
56:29
I um ironically talking about Community we we go and pick up litter on Sundays
56:35
outside this school because there's a bunch of houses where the kids they'll go to 7-Eleven and they'll they'll dump
56:40
their Monster drinks and their 7-Eleven drinks and me and my son we go pick pick all that up on Sundays and the absolute
56:47
garbage that the kids are consuming throughout the day whether it's these
56:52
you know like almost a liter Monster drink which is just caffeine sugar and
56:58
all these things the I can only imagine the nutritional State some of these
57:03
children are in and then they have to go sit down for six hours and try and focus and concentrate when all they've got
57:09
running through their body is sugar and caffeine and processed food processed
57:15
food that's just like the body is in no way in a in a space to develop and
57:21
Thrive and feel energy in a in a natural state use of these food often triggers these B
57:29
of deep depression because remember after e a lot of carbohydrate processed food you get a high and very soon within
57:35
an hour you get a very deep drop where you feel lethargic you feel down which
57:41
if you struggle with mental health issues that is not helping you in any way yeah exactly and so what do you
57:48
think about these deficiencies and how they might contribute to this growing sense of hopelessness and lack of
57:53
motivation in today's youth because at the beginning of the the be beginning of the show we were talking about you know
57:59
how how are kids right now in this space of Hope hopelessness and loneliness and
58:04
I just think about the stages before they get there and I think one of the
58:09
stages to get to to a state of loneliness and depression and anxiety has to be this nutritional lack where
58:17
their body cannot produce the chemicals and energy it needs to make children
58:23
feel the opposite of that to feel get together with people to feel energized and motivated they can't physically be
58:30
in that state if their body is in a significant state of lack no the whole
58:36
the whole idea is with food is sold incorrectly to people food is f food is
58:43
not just food and if you feel yourself if you f your car incorrectly your car
58:48
won't go if you put the wrong fuel in your car or you put no fuel in or just water and say the car is backing up and
58:55
we don't even understand we don't want to educate people about what the connection is with
59:01
fuel mental health food and what to eat when and so the that because we protect
59:08
a whole fast food industry and that's just processed carbohydrate Foods so they don't want to that kids understand
59:15
the connection between what you eat can have a direct effect on your mood can have a direct effect on your energy if
59:23
you have mental health issues it can exacerbate if you're eating correctly so diet is an incredibly wayd you know it's a whole
59:30
other podcast just talking about mental health issues uh your mood and food is
59:36
very important I mean the the uh they resist that and it's parents
59:41
responsibility to to realize that a lot of of the issues that that stem in the
59:47
Lethy and the the the low energy has to do with the fact that the kid is just um
59:55
you know so surrounded by these wasteful food that's just poor energy so it is
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it's necessary I like the idea I looked into your products that you have I think a lot of parents should go on your site
1:00:09
and educate yourself educate about yourself about alternative medication
1:00:14
healthy natural medication because nobody is going to educate you if you don't do it yourself go on a site like
1:00:20
yours to Hope look at the Alternatives I read your whole story uh and and you
1:00:26
know that is often what happens is people go for medication the medication is side effect it's not working and then
1:00:32
they don't know what to do and what we found now young people now moving to cannabis which is now legalized which is
1:00:39
the worst thing that could ever happen in this world newest study shows that it's increasing um uh mental health
1:00:46
issues anxiety uh and and schizophrenia at a Bas but you know they go to that because
1:00:53
it feels like it's helping immediately should educate themselves about alternative ways alternative medication
1:01:01
healthy uh healthy options like yours and then begin to experiment because
1:01:06
nobody's going to do it for them and often that is one of the helps
1:01:11
for a young person that's really struggling is to get the right medication because like you guys are
1:01:18
using very natural products in Earth in our nature is the answer for what we want you're just putting it together and
1:01:26
I think it's something to absolutely look into yeah great points there and I think
1:01:31
that I think for a lot of parents who who are concerned about their kids and they want to have a positive influence I
1:01:37
think they could actually start looking at maybe what they're doing and what they're not doing because you know if you go to like adults we're talking
1:01:43
about alcohol we're talking about cannabis as well we're certainly talking about sugar and caffeine like a lot of
1:01:49
people consuming these to get through the day and um a lot of these things are obviously very unhealthy I CH I'd
1:01:56
actually challenge a parent who knows their teenager consumes like monster caffeine drinks consume one of those at
1:02:03
9 o'clock and see how you function for a couple of hours I don't dare even I
1:02:08
don't dare even try it because this the size it's so unhealthy they can't
1:02:14
actually even try it as an experiment sure and the size so unhealthy the size of the can puts me off because it's just
1:02:19
like there's no couldn't consume that much anyway and even when you were to
1:02:25
look at the Quality of um fruits and vegetables these days you know our soil is massively mineral depleted therefore
1:02:31
you know it's very difficult to even with a natural healthy diet to get the right uh absolutely minerals
1:02:38
antioxidants vitamins that we actually need for our brain and bodies to function properly so supplementation is a very key part to that so yeah I yeah I
1:02:46
app I appreciate your comments there because yeah I I I I'm in a very lucky position where I get to see and hear the
1:02:53
stories from parents whose children were erratic and bouncing off the wall I
1:03:00
think you do I'm glad I I I got hold of of the information now because sometimes
1:03:07
people ask us well where can we get information although we cannot advise them about medication at all outside of
1:03:13
scope my practice I can't tell them go online look up stuff educate yourself go to this site read and see if that can
1:03:21
work for you because that's the good thing about the internet is now we have access access to a lot of information
1:03:27
which we never had but it's not always easy to find it because there's so much information so to help people Point them
1:03:34
and say go look at there are alternatives uh for um you know
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medication and for mental health interventions so that's that's um
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valuable resour yeah and I I think just to finish up here what I find remarkable
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about the human body is that it can put up so much torture regards to these
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foods that we're talking about you know but it can also completely reverse very
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very quickly once you start um thinking about you know taking a good quality
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natural supplement that's been researched to support conditions such as ADHD depression anxiety stress anxiety
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all of these things and how quickly you can start to feel so much better and you
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become um unre you don't you you're no longer requiring these sugary
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caffeinated beverages liting through it's really Liber people don't know what is out there they they just struggle
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often they just caught up in this struggle this yeah you know this cycle
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which they kept in and so it's vital if they can get out of that absolutely and
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there's no human body can consume like a really poor diet the one we're talking about for long periods of time so if you
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want to talk about like investing in your health and not having to deal with you know
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high high Health costs um take advantage of what's available to you now and and
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and start using that and I just wanted to just I think it's important when you're were talking about um the use of
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cannabis with with children with teenagers I completely agree with you it's horrific for them the the part of
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the brain that actually connects with these substances and the chemicals within them is massively underdeveloped
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from 20 from 25 and under so it really really shocks me when I see 18 19 year
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olds using cannabis um and they're also using it recreationally right they're not using it for medical they go up to
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they go up to 12 16 times a day yeah we we see them in practice and we say we
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can't even work with you you got to go to a place where they can you're addict it and they don't even know that yeah
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it's it's really really dangerous and we've not been informed well enough from the go from governments about the
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dangers especially towards children whose brains are not developed yet and
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we're throwing in these toxic substances that are um incredibly damaging so yeah
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that's a really really important point I just kind of wanted to finish up on um we could certainly talk a lot more about
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the it was great it was really great connection yeah thank you so much can you just let us know where people can
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connect with you and learn more about your work please Yes actually I started a YouTube channel restart so you can
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look at that it's in in the makings they'll get more of my material there because I'm dealing with a lot of uh
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young people who failed at 25 and they don't know where to go and so um showing
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them how to restart it because a lot of them said live around the word failure I
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failed which is a word we shouldn't even be using there isn't something like failure it's just you took a set of
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actions that didn't render the results you wanted now you have something to build on and to change but we created
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the word failure as if now you're out you can never start so I'm focusing on that they're welcome to look at that or
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they can just email me uh personally at Henry J ventor gmail.com and you can
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just put it in your line there if they have a question they're always welcome to follow up with me there amazing well
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I really appreciate your time today that was it's been a delight Simon I loved it I loved it and I'm I'm I'm so excited I
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found your material I spent two hours this morning reading through everything and and uh I'll definitely be in touch
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myself beautiful thank you so much again well right that that is it for this episode of True Hope cast the official
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podcast of true hope Canada I'll make sure that everything you need to connect with Henry is in the show notes and you
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can give us a little review on iTunes and Spotify if you want to but that is it for this week we'll see you soon
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