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think of your inner child as the I would if you can go back as far as three years old that's great anywhere from three to

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5 six seven years eight years old well imagine how you were that as that child even before if you had even if you had

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trauma or any type of things you're most authentic self you joyful playful you were C curious you wanted to learn new

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things you wanted to see new things there the world was really at your fingertips until someone comes in and

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tells you how you needed to be and so they put you in a box and a lot of times that is our parent um out of love a lot most of the time

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it's still out of love our teachers Society our friends um TV everything we

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see tells us what we need to be in the side little box and tells us what our limiting beliefs are what our strengths and weaknesses are and really they it

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try tells us who we are most of the time that's not authentically who we are and so that starts to create the wounds

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balance guiding clients to overcome limiting beliefs and embracing change unlocking their true potential today on

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the show we're going to be discussing healing the inner child and transforming wound

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into wisdom enjoy the show Good Morning Alicia welcome to True Hope cast how are you what is going well I am doing well

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um everything is going well it's a beautiful sunny day today I got my camera working so we're ready

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to that's what's going well yeah we had a bit of technical difficulties and then we also talked about the weather which

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is super classic British thing to do but I think you about 23° plus and I'm about minus5 so there's

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a massive discrepancy between our temperatures right now now but that's amazing that we're even able to do this

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with the technology that we have to have these conversations so we're just going to roll with it and I'm going to forget about your warmth that you've got over

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there um but before we get dis into our discussion today we're going to be

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discussing healing the inner child and transforming wounds into wisdom which I just love that phrase but before we jump

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into that amazing topic can you just let us know a little bit about who you are and what it is that you do please yeah

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so so I'm again I'm a Lea fa s and what I like to call myself as an inner child

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specialist um inner child coach so I go down kind of the typical i' say life

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coaching path but on a a different level so we dive deep into our inner child

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what it C what what is causing the type of um blockages people are facing things they want to get further into into their

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lives and then um I start address those and then I have like a kind of a four-step process that I take my clients

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through to start to reveal these wounds to start to heal them connect them to the inner child and to become an extremely creative playful joyful um

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being instead of kind of the misery um that the inner child wounds can bring people interesting so what inspired you

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to become a life coach and inner child specialist where does the where does the passion come from where does the Drive

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come from yeah I find that probably most people that do this work have had some type of experience of as far as their

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own healing journey and that was part of mine too so I was born into a super strict um conservative super religious

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um very fear-based family had a lot of inner child wounds that were based um

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from that from my childhood that just very fear-based and so that really started to created a lot of issues into

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my adulthood and so once I started to just this little healing process about 10 years ago I was like little is a big

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healing process started down that path and I started noticing there was still

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something missing as I was healing and it tied into there's inner child wound

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and so I started it's funny how the universe works it's like oh you want something here it is look at inner child

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stuff so I started going and down that path started healing healing my inner child and then started to realize that

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it was my clients most of their issues and most of their problems and situations are facing were tied into

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inner child wounds so started implementing that and I'm finding that most people the things that they're if

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they're stuck against a wall and they keep bumping up against the wall and bumping up against the wall a lot of times it is tied into the inner child

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wounds that they're not really aware of so I start to bring those out and make people connect to those and maybe you

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could just take us through a little bit about what does inner child mean like what does that what does that phrase

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actually mean I think a lot of people have probably heard about it but it's like maybe you can just for a lot of

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people it's going to be brand new so maybe just for everyone just kind of give us a foundational idea about what you're saying what do you mean when

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you're saying inner child work yeah that's a great question so but inner child think of your inner child as the I

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would if you could go back as far as three years old that's great anywh from three to five six seven years eight

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years old well imagine how you were that as that child you probably create even

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even before if you had even if you had trauma or any type of things your almost authentic self you're joyful playful you

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were C curious you wanted to learn new things you wanted to see new things there the world was really at your

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fingertips until someone comes in and tells you how you needed to be and so they put you in a box and a lot of times

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that is our parents um out of love a lot most of the time it's still out of love our teachers Society our friends um TV

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everything we see tells us what we need to be in the side little box and tells us what our limiting beliefs are tells

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us what our who we are who are with our strengths and weaknesses are and really they it try tells us who we are most of

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the time that's not authentically who we are and so that starts to create the wounds inside of us and so for instance

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I give people if you came home with a say you you you studied really hard as a

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kid for this test and you thought you're were going to fail it and you came home with like a c or or a d or whatever and

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you were super excited you didn't fill this test but then you brought this test grade home and your parents were so disappointed that you didn't get an A on

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it so that creates an inner toi in the box where I'm supposed to be the certain person I'm supposed to be smart I'm

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supposed to be make straight days I'm supposed to study even harder I'm supposed to earn my parents respect I'm

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supposed to earn love I'm supposed to earn all this stuff so it's in that box that's a wound that goes inside of us so

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as we get through our adulthood a lot of times that can TRS into especially like B you're a business owner or if you're

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you know hardworking employee I have to do more more and more I have to earn that and nothing's ever big enough or

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good enough for me or I'm complete opposite maybe you kind of shut down if you don't you know if you're not good

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enough you don't do anything at all and so the little little things like that tend to to create these little wounds inside of us so the inner child can be

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very very very spirited very very creative it's that fun creative portion of ourselves if it's healed right and if

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it's taken care of and it has a relationship with it but if not if we keep shoving the inner child down what's

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it going to do it's going to act out and it's going to make us feel these feelings that we don't quite they're not comfortable with us and not really who

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who we truly authentically are so in that example you're mentioning

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there it seems like a lot of that like initial wounding that initial trauma

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that's happening is on in many cases happening at kind of like a micro level like it's it's a incident here it's an

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incident there and it and the example you used about the test results it sounds just like a lot of those traumas

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begin with a lack of maybe like empathy and compassion and um meeting kind of

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kids where they're at rather than that overarching very high expectation of

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those kids to meet success whatever that means to that parent in that time and

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you have to take into consideration that you know parents struggle mom's struggle dad's struggle and even in those moments

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in that scenario where that child is bringing that test result that might be goinging to a very stressed adult

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therefore their response to that situation is going to be altered but that's not going to take anything away

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from the experience of that child who's not being met with love or Compassion or

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understanding or Joy or empathy in that moment um so it sounds like there's not

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necessarily A like there's not a childhood need happening in those moments and therefore it's actually

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confusing to the nervous system confusing to the brain confusing to the body of that child because they're

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expecting something through a scenario but they're getting back let's just call it negativity and that negativity's

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obviously got a frequency it's got an energy and it and it's and it's connecting with um let's call the

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receiver in here for the child and it's not really Computing because they're expecting something very different than

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what they receiving back yeah yes and it could be the complete opposite maybe you have a

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parent that didn't care enough neglect so it has different different qualities too and I do want to preference and say

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that our parents we have to give them much gratitude forgiveness um and grace through this because most parent I'm

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saying most parents they do the best they can with what they know they have and they they do they do things out of

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maybe they did that for that test grade out of love because they wanted to push that child to do more but maybe that

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child was at their at Max capacity and that's just one simple example there can be much more deeper stuff and you know

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smaller stuff such as a kid maybe called you ugly in class and now you kind of subconsciously kept on to that that that

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belief system that belief that you're ugly so therefore you maybe you have to try a little extra or you your little I

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guess you call High Maintenance inside I don't know maybe maybe there things you you value your exterior looks more than

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your interior looks because of things like that so it doesn't necessarily have to come from your parents however a a

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lot of the wounds probably did come from a some type of caregiver yeah it's it's complex I mean

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every single individual that comes and works with you I'm sure they have a completely unique and different story

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and the way that they've got there is very different the paths that they've taken the choices that they've made like

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it's a very complex and unique um terrain but I guess at the end of the day um trauma within the body and

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accessing that inner child I'm sure that pathway there's a there's um there's a form to obviously to gaining access to

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it and to working through some of those things with those individuals yeah absolutely I've break

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it down I'm actually um in the process of writing a book too that's going to break this break it down in a more of a published format um but well take my

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clients through is you know the first step is really we have to get in touch with our inner child we have to acknowledge our inner child and we need

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all we need to do is sit with their inner child and so when way to do that is definitely through meditation it's

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through connecting maybe find a picture yourself as a child and if you some people don't have photos ofel as children you don't have that maybe it's

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something that reminds you if you played basketball maybe it's a basketball a picture of a basketball player that you really resonated with when you're a

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child and really talking to that and connecting with that and then we have to sit and we have to listen we have to

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absolutely sit and listen and we cannot judge and sometimes don't even need to say anything except for I hear you I

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understand you and what happened was absolutely not right you have every right you have to validate their

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feelings because that that's the big that's what the wounds are caused because the feelings were validated imagine if you brought the test home

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that and your parents said you know what I was really really really expecting you to make an A on this however tell to me

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about this you know are you proud of this are this grade and from a nod judgmental and the child to say you know

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what I worked really hard and I really thought I was going to fail this so I'm really happy with the C or D whatever and so you're validated the feelings of

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that and valid it's the the validation of it that's missing so once you validate it and you listen to it then

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you're going to start the reparenting process and that is you know what you I'm super proud of you for I'm just

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going to use example of the test I'm super proud of you for studying and making an effort on this test I'm proud super proud you showed up for this test

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you did all the things you needed to do for this test and you know what you did a dang good job with the B A SE I'm so

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proud of you for that what did that inner child need to hear at the time to make it feel validated in love and safe

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and that's the three things it wants to feel is validation love and safety when we can give that to the child I do want

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I want to go back a couple steps first when you start the process make sure you're in a safe space you want to make sure you're in a physically obviously

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physically but emotionally um mentally safe safe space um you don't want to do

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this in the middle of you know chaotic stuff because your inner child's not going to connect not gonna gonna do

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because it wants we want the inner child to communicate with you so once we start the parenting process we let it know

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that it's okay but now it's now we say you know what I'm here I'm going to parent you and anytime you have an issue

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like this comes up talk to me tell me and your child will talk to you and tell you you'll you'll still to know that

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maybe not voice in your head but you'll start to be able to connect the connections to it and once you sit with

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this inner child on a you know a daily basis if you need to monthly basis however often then your child's going to

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start to come out it's going to start to be more playful it's going to feel safe it's going to feel loved it's going to feel connected to you and that's what

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the connection is and so once it's connected we're going to keep that going

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with our inner child we don't want to shove it down we want to say no I've already killed you you're good you know

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we want to connect with it how do we do that what's the what's the best thing kids like to do they want to

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play so we're gonna play with their inner child we're gonna do fun stuff we're going to create that out if you

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loved jumping rope as kids that would brought your basketball go play some hoops with your friends go you know jump

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rope if you love ballet you know if you don't want to be take ballet lessons or any type of dance classes go to the

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ballet pretend like you're just admire it like you were that little child so all the little things that you wanted to

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do I love the example tell people you you're like like superheroes dress in that red cape or whatever you know you

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don't have to wear the cape but dress in the red shirt if you're a superwoman or Wonder Woman or whatever um I've get my

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superheroes mixed up but you know whatever it was you know where that and what's the characteristics that Wonder

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Woman had or Superman had they had confidence they helped people go

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displays those qualities and have fun fun with it so that's the really the key to keeping your inner child happy and

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safe because if we're not playing we're not having fun and we're just work work work all the time we're telling in child

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it's not important yeah one of my questions that popped up when you talk just before you mentioned the the play aspect was that

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there has to be parts of our like childhood and our inner child that comes out when we're adults because there's

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obviously a huge part of who we are we learn the majority of the the majority of things that we're ever going to learn

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we like learn before the ages of five and the majority of that is through play so a large part of our adulthood has to

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involve things that we love that are fun and that are playful and I'm I'm a big

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kid like with my with my small kids and it m it makes parenting a lot easier for me because I'm super happy playing

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ridiculously imaginative games and doing all these ridiculous things that's very

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easy for me um but I can understand how a lot of parents who have been bought up

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to be very serious and it's about success and it's about and it's about providing which is all like all very

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important things without question but it's going to um it's going to cause

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issues for that individual as well as it's going to express out in within their like with their partner and their

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kids because having fun is like a very important part of being a human being and and it it it lays down all the

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nonsense all the ego disappears when you're messing around and playing and you're jumping on the trampoline you

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know it's just it's just fun and giggles and you and yeah that those those parts of us that let's just say Society has

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kind of created just dissipate and we're just kind of the true and we're authentic and it's a it's a beautiful

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place to be because when you see somebody doing that whether you know them or not like we have a trampoline center here where I live and you just

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see these these moms and these dads having way more fun than their 5-year-old it's like we like this is a

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therapy that the government should be subsidizing because we have a much happier

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population yes absolutely we have to play I mean two points here is who said

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we we have to act like adult I mean yes we have we have responsibilities we get into our adulthood you know fortunately

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and unfortunately we have certain responsibilities but who said we can't jump on the trampoline who said we can't

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do that I mean who told who told you that the serious adults who aren't having fun in their lives what's the

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point of life if we're not going to have a little fun here there's no point in in living a life if

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there's no there's you're just serious and it's always you know constant constant have to be you know

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adulthood or what whatever you want to call it so yes that's such a good point thanks for making that yeah and I just

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we've just had a couple of people on the show recently talking about um particularly young men these days in

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2025 and there's a lot of like hopelessness and loneliness around being within that demographic and we're just

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talking there about um you know adults being able to access Play and creativity

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and Imagination and how important that is what do you think what's your experience in regards to these let's

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just call them like 17 to 22 and maybe even on beyond that these these young men that feel like

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um they don't they're not ready to step into adulthood but they're also not ready to let go of being kids and you

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know playing and whether that's like video games or messing around or whatever that might be um there's an

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interesting transition there with that age group and with that gender um I wonder what you thought about that in

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regards to being um overly connected to that inner child

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and not wanting to let go because we don't have a lot of rituals anymore

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within our culture that has a clear transition from going from a boy to a

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man um I just I I use boy and man because I've got more experience with that because because I'm a man um but

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what what are you what's your experience in that because it's an interesting phenomena that I'm trying to figure out myself yeah so I have a couple a few

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theories for that first of all I think we're in a different so I would say those people are those were raised

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probably from parents are probably in their 50s 60s they're not quite the boomer generation but they're not quite

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the millennial generation so I guess you would call them the that's what whatever gen I don't know I'm like gen Z's and

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Gen X whatever the generation TW so that generation of say the parents were raised by probably the boomer generation

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which were raised by the what they call I think the silent generation or the great generation one of the I I I forget

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the generation but you know the 1920s generation they went through Great Depression they went through all the

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things they went through the struggles and even their parents went through all the struggles and so there think of all

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the changes that went from the 20s the 1920s to the 1950s yeah I mean we're going through that right now too we're

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going through the rapid you know through the rapid technology CH or industrial changes there we're going through probably 100% faster with technology

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changes so what comes with that is they were told they had certain set set of

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expectations that that passed on to the boomer generation boomer generation raised what I call my generation I'm 45

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My Generation into not really kind of knowing they didn't want to kind want the same

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expectations and as their parents put on them to be a certain box but they are also kind of so you had the mixture of

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the free flowing so you had a lot of Revolution going in that so you take that so I think a lot of time history

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has to do with with parenting techniques so you get into the generation I say My

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Generation Um now is we were trying to break the patterns of those previous

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generations because because those previous generations didn't really know how to show love to kids but now it's kind of an overabundance not an

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overabundance of love but just more of a No Boundaries in place so we have to get

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back to the boundaries in place and the parenting boundaries with love and guidance and some of that seems to be

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kind of go kind of went away a little bit because we wanted to be the perfect parents we wanted to be the overloving we wanted to be that everybody gets a

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chury parents there's nothing wrong with that of certain things as long as kids know that that's not reality so we've

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almost created this generation of kids coming out that don't want to first of all they it's not that they

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don't want to work but they have higher sets of values of what they want out of their life because they're still in the inner child phase so we have there's so

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many beautiful things that are coming from this generation that's not all bad at all but we do have a generation of

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responsibilities where really more parents to care of a lot more responsibilities and put a lot of responsibilities I feel like on the kids

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it was more on have a good we want to have you have a good childhood but this

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CH good childhood we're going to run you from activity to activity to activity to activity and then we're going to come

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home and now we're in a I mean those those kids were raised by two parents that had to work our my parents were

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raised by one parent typic I'm saying typically not always I mean that the Gen

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60 SE 50s 60s and up 70s generation I'd say we're raised by two parent

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households but one parent was at home yeah the mother and then the father so and I'm not saying there's any right I'm

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not saying there's right or wrong to this and we're definely a different time I think that may have something to do with it the second thing is we have so

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much technology going on that we have zoned out our emotions let F how just

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having a conversation with my husband how this is all going so imag you have your 17 to 22 year olds what are they

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doing for fun they're playing video games what's video games doing it's not creating doing creative activity it's

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zoning you're getting a Zone and you're numbing out everything so creative play

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to me is going out and doing something inter interacting in person or interacting with yourself and using

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creative genius bringing in that creativity in your mind it's more getting into the right side of

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your mind there are some I understand video games that do that however I think that's that's kind of where it's at our

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these kids have were born into with a cell phone in their hands pretty much or given one at a very young age they they

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just have so many numbing out techniques and they haven't really been taught to to tap into their

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emotions so I think that's where the depression is coming through because you have all these emotions that you're you're coming in numb you're being

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taught to numb out you can't stay numb for so long or you can only stay love for so

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long you can't stay numb forever or things are going to start to trigger you they're going to start to notice things that come up so that's two things I

23:40

noticed um that's probably contributing to that um like I said there's so many beautiful things in that typical

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generation my daughter's 23 um so I see part of this too I think she kind of hit like the very end of it but I see going

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through you know some of her like friends and kids with um parents with younger kids in that age kind of what

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they're what they're going through it's it's tough and you got social media too yeah that's on top of that that we

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didn't grow up in that with that that was added on to us so we were adults that were able to handle that they grew

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up in this this was something they they were born into that's a huge point in regards to we were adults when that type

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of Technology came in because you know we don't really have a fully developed brain until we're like 25 years of age

24:26

therefore if you are bombarding an individual with um

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dopamine hits to an underdeveloped brain you B your brain technically does not

24:38

have the mechanisms available to sustain the uh external stimuli like

24:45

impossible to do so there's going to be developmental challenges there's going to be um parts of the brain that don't

24:52

develop properly so and then when you throw in the fact that you know

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teenagers don't necessarily eat brilliantly I see so many kids drinking

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these like energy drinks that have got no place in in society and they are just

25:08

doing so much harm to their to their brains and their bodies and the the I

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mean here at trueu Hope Canada you know we're a mind and body based supplement company and our Flagship product is the

25:20

most studied micronutrient formula in the world so we know so much about teenagers and young kids what under

25:28

nutrition does especially with minerals if you're if you're an individual who is chronically mineral deficient you are

25:35

going to experience depression and anxiety and ADHD your brain is not going to function properly because you do not

25:41

have the ingredients to produce the neurochemicals to produce the pathways

25:47

to create the actual neurons the myelin all of those very important things and when you

25:54

throw poor nutrition into a child that's like looking at their screens all the

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time it's very challenging for your brain and body to keep up with the with

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that external stimuli and I think that um video games is interesting point

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because I remember playing video games probably from a pretty young age I think maybe like 10 I remember playing

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like the the the NZ with my brother um and then I'm just thinking about the

26:25

particular games because I remember like you would play a game like Lura Croft or golden eye and you would could spend 40

26:33

minutes on a level and then if you died in the game you would have to go back to the beginning so there was actually this

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like Progressive goal orientated reward system but these games they have today

26:47

have been developed very uniquely to keep them zoned out so there isn't this goal so like you can play for an hour an

26:53

hour an hour and then you die all of the things that you've accumulated within that game be that I don't know like

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coins and gems or guns or whatever it is you still have them so that it's very

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and I find that very very interesting I I guarantee there's books on that on podcasts on how they flip that um gaming

27:12

generation around and also what's sad is like you know you can you can game for

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10 hours at home solo with no interaction with another human being

27:24

these days but like you know when it I remember taking my whole computer system my massive Monitor and my big my big uh

27:32

computer piece having to shove that in the back of my mom's car very carefully and then take that to a friend's house

27:37

and we'd have these like lamp parties where we'd have like you know seven or eight of us with our stupidly long

27:43

computers and but we were there like with each other in like um yeah in in in

27:48

the same room in like human space and it's just so interesting and so different and obviously I'm not saying

27:54

people should do that now but it's just these are these are the parts of um like

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my childhood that have developed me into who I am and I couldn't imagine you know I would certainly be I would because I

28:06

love playing computer games I love playing soccer games and things like that I would certainly have been one of these kids that would like get home from

28:12

school put my headphones on sit in my thousand gaming chair and just get into

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it until I couldn't keep my eyes open I would have 100% have been that individual but I was so blessed I was

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born in 1984 and that just did not exist CU my brain would not have been able to handle

28:30

it my parents would have you know not known how to handle it either there's a big chance I would have been put on

28:36

medication because there was no way I was going to be able to handle school the next day after gaming till 2 amm you

28:42

know it's just not yeah not possible so kind of went off on one there in regards to the computer games but it's

28:48

super yeah and it's important that we take our own um personal experience from

28:53

it as well and I just wanted to there was a note I made right at the beginning of the show in regards to

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um inner child work and like memories from from um from our youth and I was

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just thinking about my own my earliest memory is a traumat is a traumatic one for for a five-year-old and I think I

29:12

was like four or five and um something happened in regards to losing my like favorite bunny toy and we drove four

29:19

hours across an island to our hotel and I've left him in this like shop and it's

29:25

super funny that's the earliest thing I remember remember and I still kind of think about it now and I feel sad and I've shared that

29:31

story with my kids and they they bring it up sometimes and it's super interesting because that's like the um

29:38

for me and and probably for a many many years after that it would have been a a traumatic piece for me but like what do

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you think in regards to like the majority of people's earliest memories are they like predominantly like joyful

29:52

happy ones going a Disney World or are they like traumatic things is that is there much literature on that you know

29:59

that's a good thing I haven't really studied a lot of that some good points I'm like going to go freak out some research now for this um um I think it

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probably depends on the individuals I remember mine being probably my first memories being like the first ones that

30:12

really come to mind without me having to go and do some deep subconscious hypnos like type of work to bring out with the

30:18

ones that are subconscious prob from kindergarten when I was four five years old and they were all good memories I

30:24

mean I remember coming out like you a tur they brought a turkey for Thanksgiving went to a small private school brought a turkey out for thanks

30:31

during Thanksgiving we got to pet the turkey and I remember the turkey running around and we all just kids C going crazy so I remember and as much as

30:38

fear-based and I always say traumatic like certain traumatic trauma like wounds inside my own childhood I

30:44

remember the good stuff first but I really think it's individual and it depends on it really depends on the

30:50

individual so I say if few of if the first thing that comes up is something that's negative that's really definitely

30:56

something we need you need to start working on if it's something good and positive those are the things we want to cling to because our childhoods are

31:03

never all bad there's always at least one good thing that happened in my childhood just the fact you survived it

31:08

but there's always one good thing and there's always been somebody around you even most people have had somebody

31:14

surround you that has loved them so we want to cling to that while we're doing the work so I think both memories are

31:20

very very important um to do as far as yours being the bunny it's you probably remember that because it's still a wound

31:26

that's deep inside of you um as a far as probably safety I don't know if the bunny felt was a safety

31:32

like safety isue validation love safety yeah the thing was pulled from you so you're safy you didn't feel safe at the

31:38

time without that Bunny and that was very kind of a traumatic thing for you um I tell pH people so funny because by

31:44

when I was about two or three um and I don't remember the me the specific M my mom tells me is I My grandmother used to

31:51

own a antique store and she had this Ronald McDonald um doll that and I fell

31:57

in love with that doll and so I still have that doll to this day by the way and so that was my that was my go-to

32:02

safety blanket was that Ronald McDonald named Rachel which is really funny because that's my spirit guide come to

32:08

find out but um I named her Rachel and that was my my go-to thing so if Rachel

32:14

had been pulled from me then that would have been traumatic for me and so I I

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feel that um with inside what's inside of you because you didn't know how to process through that um and as kids we

32:27

take everything so literally so if something's taken away from you it's like it's really taken away from you

32:32

there's no replacement for it yeah at the time and the way that I the way that I translate it now from my understanding

32:39

of just biology is that um you know that thing that happened to me back then when

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I was 5 years old losing that bunny it's obviously created a cluster of neurop Pathways in my brain so strong that it's

32:50

still like it's still in there today and fires frequently sometimes when I think about it and there's obviously a million

32:57

and other things that happened in around that time that I don't remember but if I was a CH if I was a child and many

33:03

children go through this where they are psychologically or physically abused or or both lots of times that's going to

33:10

create neurop Pathways that will end up becoming just the conscious normal pathway for those children and

33:18

then into adulthood so I can only imagine yeah the work that's needed and

33:25

how difficult it can be for those individuals as adults and it makes me have a lot of compassion and

33:30

understanding empathy for those individuals because you just never know what people have gone through in their

33:35

child within their childhood and how they grew up so it's probably just a good Baseline to just treat everyone

33:41

with a lot of love absolutely yeah that's I mean that's super helpful for yourself as an individual but it's yeah

33:47

this is a good way to be for sure um I'd love to talk about like the typical

33:54

misunderstanding surrounding inner child work and emotional healing how do you um clarify those with the

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people you work with absolutely so a lot of people come and they're like well I had a great

34:06

childhood that's fantastic I'm very happy that you have that that view of your childhood but nobody's had a

34:12

perfect childhood nobody's had a perfect because we're humans in a human world or

34:17

human experiences and there's things that are happening that our brains as a child just don't quite understand or the

34:23

capable understanding so that's great so maybe it wasn't your necessarily your parents like my parents were great

34:29

they're perfect I had to grow perfect parents that's fantastic maybe it wasn't your parents that are causing this so a lot of times people want to say for

34:36

instance if they I'm Give an example um Rel let's take go through relationships you have somebody who keeps have failed

34:44

relationships I fail they think that's their their terms I keep failing in relationships I keep dating the same

34:49

person they keep leaving me or I keep leaving them or I keep going through we keep having the same fights with the same you know person but but I had a

34:58

perfect childhood okay let's go back and take once's the what are the arguments about

35:03

what if you keep being keep leaving the same person or you keep having a relationship and then you like I don't

35:10

want to be this you know back backing back out there's some type of fear control Miss possibly a fear of

35:16

Abandonment which could come to something as simple as what you had said about your losing your bnny you know it

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could be something as simple as that so once we start to heal that type of wound and realize like that's child wound but

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the say because I lost the bunny did that devastate my entire world was I able to not move

35:34

on that was not true I wasn't and we have to give a time for that little inner child to love and respect and to

35:40

mourn that bunny because if you weren't able to more I'm just using example mourn that bunny if you have parents

35:46

that said it's just the stuffed animal will get you another one which is so typical and as a parent I completely

35:52

under I that's something I would have did it's just a bunny we'll get you another one to quit crying it's no big deal because I I didn't understand the

35:58

inner child stuff when I was I was a young parent so what's that telling old child what you have to say is not valid

36:05

and you're more your feelings towards this money are not valid so therefore you should not attach yourself to

36:10

anything and so the little things like that start to to add up that's that's B

36:16

that first the second one is I'll always have an wounded inner child that's not true we you have there are wounds that

36:23

the inner child faces and you new new ones will come up but if you know how to connect and to heal that inner child it gets much much easier to do

36:30

it that's great yeah that um I think it's a great uh a great window into kind

36:36

of this type of work and for a lot of people yeah who might think that um they don't have any of these like wounds

36:44

whether it's like I think for a lot of people that they they know they've got stuff they need to work through and

36:50

because of the they clearly know that things happened but then there's a lot of things that people just it's just not in their conscious mind and there could

36:56

just be tiny little things that are holding them back um which you know you could kind of look to you know you're

37:02

looking to kind of optimize your psychological Health by working through these things um because you're just not

37:09

you're not completely conscious that that they are um that they're there and they're present and they show up in situations where you might feel yeah

37:16

anxious or depressed or you're you know you're not kind of like centered or grounded or in like a homeostatic

37:21

phase and yeah that's interesting but you know what are the other types of challenges or limiting beliefs um you

37:29

often see in the people you work with and how do you help them get over those hurdles because I'm

37:35

sure there are a lot of people you work with a lot of people you see who have

37:40

walls built up around this type of thing yes um a lot of it is it's too

37:47

painful I I I feel a lot of people don't want to do the work because it's painful to go back there is some pain involved

37:54

and we have to sit with this pain you have to sit with your inner child and you sit with the wounds and the cry and

37:59

you have to cry it out you have whatever emotions because we've blocked these emotions down inside of our system and

38:05

we all know that there's so much science behind this that I'm sure L all know that that starts to create issues in

38:10

your body why the doctor say stress is a number one cause of any type of like heart issues or any strokes and stuff

38:17

because stress is a nothing more than emotions that are not being processed through I'm talking about major stress

38:23

you know a little bit of stress is normal so if we don't process the emotions and we don't get to the

38:30

point they're going to come up eventually and so they have to come up and if we start to understand that

38:36

emotions are nothing but an emotion it's just it's just sadness it's just anger

38:42

and it's not it's temporary it doesn't have to be forever but we have to process through those and you have

38:48

enough strength everyone has enough strength to process through those emotions we just have to do it and if we

38:53

understand and we take ourselves almost a third over a third view um of it here's myself here's this emotion I'm

39:00

gonna watch myself process through this emotion I'm gonna cry all these tears yeah or I'm gonna angry I'm gonna scream

39:05

on throat whatever you got to do just you know don't damage or hurt anyone else um whatever you have to do to get

39:11

get those emotions out of you is gonna bring the joy and the peace that comes along with it so people think that I'm

39:17

fine I have no issues but I don't really know how to feel into that so a lot of people they'll come in they don't know

39:22

how to feel their emotions and that's a huge that's kind of the numbing but we we're talking about before we're taught to numb our emotions we're taught to

39:29

numb it down we're taught to not process through that and that starts we don't have a voice anymore we don't have a we

39:35

don't our bodies start to dysfunction and it's we're not in a happily joyful place we're just going through the motions of life and we're not living

39:42

that that creative fun part of oursel yeah I think for a lot of people like we're going back to this like this

39:49

this play aspect that we're talking about playing as adults I think that once we become adults we we we live way

39:55

too much in our heads in regards to like you know we're using our physical body to get us from you

40:01

know bed to the bathroom to the kitchen to our car to our office and then etc

40:08

etc rather than you know we have this incredible body that's like littered with nervous systems with part of our

40:15

nervous system especially within our gut so food's obviously got a massive impact on it but we um we we're supposed to

40:23

move our bodies and engaging them but like that's when a lot of like sematic work that's kind of coming out at the

40:28

moment like it's really great we've had a lot of amazing sematic practitioners on the show where they're helping people

40:33

re-engage their connection with their bodies and their emotional state and I think I remember I can't remember the

40:40

name of the book but I remember reading a book talking about how we have a lot more control over our emotions that than

40:46

we think like we've kind of been trained and thought that emotions are something that happened to us and that we can't do

40:53

anything about it but obviously what we do know now is you know you can recreate and re wire neur neurological Pathways

40:59

to turn that sadness that you often feel in those certain situations into something completely different or just

41:05

tone or just toned down you know obviously sadness is is is a very normal

41:10

natural thing to experience but it's when is that coming up for you and has that some is that is that sadness

41:17

something that's been formulated over years and years and years of you know of of stuff that's just not been worked

41:22

through so yeah that's very important the emotional piece yeah you have to process work through it emotions are not

41:28

bad there's no bad emotion just what we do with the emotions how we respond to the emotions

41:35

that create situations that become bad there nothing wrong with you to be sad or angry or upset that's you're a human

41:40

being you're supposed to be that's how our bodies are designed to function to process through it's our that's our

41:46

nervous how our nervous system knows what what's going on yeah how we connect our bodies and our brains and all that

41:51

together is through emotions yeah and a lot of lot of people are stressed

41:58

a lot of people are anxious a lot of people are depressed these days you know we just see mental health just just going Skyrocket through the roof even

42:04

though we've got hundreds of different psychotropic medications that you know in my opinion don't seem to be like you

42:10

know really like curing people or getting people better otherwise we'd see those numbers come down um and obviously

42:16

the work we do here at Tru hope we've you know we've got 36 peer- reviewed medical journals showing our Flagship

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product here EMP Power Plus is incredibly um helpful for um children there's a whole section on the the

42:29

research in regards to children in lowering anxiety and stress especially after like traumatic events so this

42:35

would be interesting to you well a lot of This research was done in New Zealand post earthquake and being able to

42:41

actually use our product as a um mechanism to provide the body with the

42:46

necessary minerals antioxidants and vitamins and amino acids to support the

42:52

nervous system in processing trauma in the moment so quake and then like

42:58

splitting off these two groups into you know not taking anything to taking this natur taking the supplement and

43:03

obviously after you know an earthquake the nervous system is going to be rattled especially for children who

43:09

maybe not understand exactly what's happening and they completely feel um

43:14

unsafe but if they've got the love and care of people around them and they've actually taken the the products to

43:22

provide the ingredients necessary to create chemicals that are going to re

43:27

balance their stress response if that's not there it's very challenging to do

43:32

that and we've got adults we've got teenagers we've got kids out there who are so disregulated with regards to

43:37

their stress and their anxiety because of oh my gosh like nutrition cell phones all of these things just stress of being

43:44

a teenager all of these things are super important but when those children when those kids and those adults are taking a

43:50

product that's can actually cross the bloodb brain barrier and affect the brain positively which most micronutrients don't do

43:57

they're actually they're getting this um like kickart to be able to actually start processing things thinking about

44:04

their thoughts processing their emotional state and behaving and acting in a way that's going to kind of make

44:11

them feel better it's just remarkable that what we see in in taking something

44:16

so simple as just like basically food broken down so small that can to be absorbed and utilized and used in the

44:22

body regardless of how stressed somebody is you can actually take this these products to serve you and when we take

44:30

care of foundational nutritional pieces lots of other things seem a lot easier it's a lot easier to think about

44:36

going out for a walk or thinking about maybe putting meditation into your routine think about maybe picking

44:42

something healthier to consume rather like than validating the anger and sadness with like ice cream and chips

44:48

whatever when you know sometimes that's a good thing to do and you should totally do but if you're doing that every day and you're eating emotionally

44:55

like that is going to obviously effect that's the ingredients that you're putting into your body to create brain cells and create neur neurochemistry so

45:03

if you're every day taking a product that can get into your body and build

45:08

these things and I I do it for myself I've seen my kids take it and I can see when they don't take these foundational

45:14

things they get stressed out a lot easier they get an angry quicker they get rageful quicker they're irritable

45:20

but when they do take these products they they certainly get into those States but they don't go nuclear they

45:25

get into a place where they can catch themselves and bring them back to balance which every parent on the planet

45:31

should have this in their back pocket because it's a challenging thing to get good quality food into their kids especially when their preferences Change

45:38

Daily um so yeah I just wanted to make that piece because that piece because um

45:43

a lot of the inner child work not doesn't just affect adults but obviously teenagers get affected by what happened

45:50

to them as children and even like you know 10 11 year olds Etc like it's all it's all massively connected the one

45:57

primary foundational piece is like are you providing your body with what it needs to help you

46:06

recover I'll let you talk now because I just went off oh good yes I I love that because if

46:11

we're not I always preaches the I'm like we have what you're putting into your body is either harming it or it's giving

46:19

it nutrients and if we continue to put in I mean in the US we're very well

46:24

known for all the chemicals hopefully some of that starting to change over but we're known for all the just crap they

46:31

put into our into our food into our water and there's no wonder I mean you I'm I'm sure you like look at the rates

46:37

of ADHD and they say well it's because it wasn't diagnosed no I'm walking I can see kids like have no attention span

46:43

anymore we've been also training through you know technology but also through the foods we're eating caus us not to have

46:49

attention spans yeah they cause us not to to be able to do the things um kids

46:54

are tired they kids are more overweight than they were you know 20 years ago kids are they're they're coming out and

47:01

it a lot of it like parents are on you know they're working so many hours to provide and they're struggling and

47:06

trying to provide for their you know to for living standards and the kids kind of what's the easiest thing to do is go

47:13

through McDonald's or a drive-thru or pick up a pizza or do something else and

47:19

I understand that because I I've been there but the things that you're putting into your kids' bodies are going to definitely make a make a change and

47:26

they're they're develop mental their brain development yeah it's hard not to look at basically just looking outside

47:33

of your house and experiencing what's going on with your community to not recognize that there is a long arm of

47:41

big agriculture big sugar and all these these organizations I think most people are aware of the influence big farmer

47:49

has um on individuals but like when you've got governments that for decades are

47:54

not looking at the science are not protecting the people they are supposed to govern that's when you need huge big

48:02

shifts politically because you know who's going to do it like who's going to um ban the chemicals that have been

48:08

banned in the EU for like decades that are still used in North America I mean it's absolutely Preposterous when you

48:14

hear about things like that that there are chemicals used in Europe that have been banned for well over 30 years which

48:22

are still sprayed and used every single day on the foods that are given to kids in day cares like it's absolutely

48:29

ridiculous um because there's there's there's nobody in the government that well that really cares enough money

48:36

about that it's about it's money it's power and yeah we're seeing huge shifts in that like literally like two what two

48:41

hours ago Robert Kennedy Jr was just uh confirmed into the HS HHS so I wonder

48:47

like what's going to happen there in regards to the change for food and food

48:53

access and you know like it's not right that going to McDonald's and feeding your whole family is is cheaper than a

48:59

healthy alternative like that does is completely backwards yeah it should be I

49:05

don't know should be a mass premium put on those on those junk Foods because of the damage that they potentially cause

49:10

and the the effect that it has on the the the health of individuals but also like the cost of Healthcare in America

49:16

is ridiculous and you take away you take away junk food for a year that number's

49:22

going to drop in the the eight nine digigit amount and it's like like it's so obvious at this point there's like

49:29

books about it there's movies about it it's just right in our faces and it's quite insulting um and I don't blame

49:36

individuals for going there and doing that because economically like sometimes you just got to get calories into your children it's just like what you GNA

49:43

pick you gonna pick the $5 option or the $50 option it's like please obviously I mean that's what people there's I mean

49:49

there's literally in people trying just most like people are trying to survive right now with the economic cost of things you can't I mean to buy when I

49:56

Donald's hamburger costs less than buying a thing of fruit you know I mean that's

50:04

crazy that is that's insane you know and it's like it's I've seen like I feel

50:09

like the Fast Food level it's it's got increased a little bit but then it's like this big jump in any type of

50:15

healthy you know organic it's like okay so we're paying more for organic to not have these pesticides put on our but

50:21

yeah it's I it's crazy because I go to I can't have gluten here it makes me sick

50:27

if I if I have anything wheat related I I'm done for the day I go to Europe I can eat everything there and so it's

50:35

such a huge Testament of how the quality of food is and I don't feel sick I don't feel bloated I mean and I come back and

50:41

I haven't gained any weight like twice as much there so yeah I I've had the I've I've been lucky I spent the first

50:48

2 seven years of my life in Europe between Sweden and England and then move moving here when I was like 30 and I've

50:55

had a decade of living here and people's gut health here is significantly worse and I 100% put it down to the fact that

51:03

every time they're consuming pretty much anything um fruits and vegetable wise

51:09

and um gluten especially it's not the gluten that's causing the problem it's the it's the glyphosate that's sprayed

51:15

on people and acting as a significant antibiotic that's eradicating um all the good bugs in your

51:22

microbiome therefore causing so much gut disregulation and we know that the majority of your immune system resides

51:28

in there and a good chunk of your nervous system as well so if you've got poor gut Integrity you're going to have

51:34

nervous system problems and you're going to have immunological problems and we see autoimmune disease in this part of the world ridiculous and it's it's

51:42

honest like it's so obvious now that it's like it's a it's a it's a glyphosate spraying pesticide problem

51:49

and again those spraying that on crops in the UK is in in the EU it get does

51:55

get done in certain circumstances I think but like not to the level that it's done here like it's pretty much

52:01

like a band a band product yeah craziness yeah um I know we're

52:08

coming to the end of our time here and I love that we've gone off on all sorts of things there and we've made it relevant to today but I guess I think at the end

52:14

of the day we're just looking to um provide inspiration and solutions and

52:19

knowledge to people that um there are people out there like yourself who can work with the inner child and create

52:27

some forgiveness there create some space and you know there was obviously for a lot of kids there was wasn't the validation there wasn't the love there

52:33

wasn't the safety but I think it's awesome that you can actually provide that now as an adult to your inner child and there are practices out there there

52:39

are meditations out there there are people like yourself that can guide people through that and I think that having a coach having a um support

52:47

system there that to help you through that is a really great way of like you know putting your hands up and just like

52:53

kind of surrendering in a very positive way to like have your mind and body kind

52:58

of re-engaged with with uh with healing I think that's just amazing so I I'm

53:04

blessed that you're out there you're just another amazing guest that we have on the show that we're just trying to

53:09

spread the light in regards to there's so many amazing things out there available to people right now and that

53:14

um a lot of people suffering uh doesn't it doesn't have to be that way yeah

53:20

there is hope and there is healing there is hope and there is healing I absolutely appreciate that yeah that's

53:25

very cool um can can you just let people know where they can connect with you if they want to check out your um your

53:31

social media check out your website and um also you've got a book coming out is that next year when's that going to hit

53:37

um I'm in the process of writing it and I'm taking my time because I'm actually um doing some extra deep inner healing

53:43

um on myself as I'm writing this kind of opening up some wounds and going through that so it's a it's it's going to be a

53:49

beautiful beautiful beautiful um experience in book for people to read so look for it on the first of next year

53:54

maybe maybe closer to that um all the information will be on my website too anybody wants to get in touch with me

53:59

can go to my website Alicia ferrell. comom that's a i c a f a r r i

54:06

i.com um there's a book a link button up there so click on book a link or sorry

54:11

book a call um link up there so book a call with me will take about an hour or less or whatever time you need if you

54:17

just need a call and cry to me about your inner child I'll listen to you I'll give you some tips walking away and of course if you want to work with me um

54:24

we'll talk about what that looks like beautiful well thank you so much Alicia for coming on to the show I really

54:29

appreciate it and I'll make sure that all those links are in the show notes so people can get connected with you and then when that book comes out we'll get

54:35

you back onto the show um to talk more about it and maybe we can do some sort of like giveaway because we like we like

54:40

to do that oh i' love yes would be amazing wonderful well thank you very

54:46

much again Lea for coming on to the show really appreciate it thank you well that is it for this episode of True Hope cast

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